Mothers, do you need a moment?
Almost all mothers struggle with feelings of guilt when they take time away from their children to practice self-care, mums have a mile-long to-do list, and by default, they often put themselves at the bottom of the list.
Sometimes, they don’t even make the list at all.
I get it. As a mother of two and a Kinesiologist, I hear the stories mothers share. One moment we feel flooded with love and kindness and we know we’ll do anything for these little people. And the next moment we’re tired and overwhelmed. Swinging between stressing, rushing to being disconnected and absent. Sometimes we feel SO far from the mother we want to be and vow to do ‘better’ next time, but the truth is: you are already doing the best you can, and it’s “better” than you think.
It’s in these tender moments that we need someone to support and encourage us.
At The Nurture Pod we get it, we have a private room for you to hit the pause button on life, replenish your energy reserves before returning to your families. Thankfully, I get to see mothers grow, become more empowered and learn to fall back in love with being a mother through the small changes made with quiet time out.
Here are my 3 personal go-to tips;
1. Every time you notice you’re getting resentful or irritable, stop. Ask yourself “What do I need right now to stay in balance?” Then, give it to yourself – whether your child is there or not. Five minutes to sit on the front porch, listen to the birds outside, a glass of water? Or five minutes of dancing even. If you can’t do it right now, make a date with yourself for later – write it down and don’t forget it.
2. Consciously parent yourself. Did you know that it’s your job to be your own parent? If you’re old enough to have a child yourself, your parents are off the hook. It’s your responsibility now. Talk to yourself like someone you love. Nurture yourself through the hard times. Acknowledge all your efforts in the right direction, write down your triumphs. No, you’re not perfect. You don’t need to be. You deserve all the tenderness you would shower on a newborn baby. Giving that love to ourselves transforms our parenting — and our lives. Need an instant tip on how to nourish yourself? Pick a card on my website.
3. Soak in the beauty. Stop rushing and revel in your child’s laughter, the sweet smell of his hair, her joy in mastering something new. Light a candle, put on the music “you” enjoy, or treat yourself to a special teacup – it’s the simple pleasures that add up. Being present with beauty will replenish your spirit. Our kids learn from what they see us doing. If we want them to grow up to love and take care of themselves then we need to teach them by showing them how we love and take care of ourselves.
We deserve to be taken care of just like everyone else even if the one taking care of us is us. Setting an example – our kids learn from what they see us doing. If we want them to grow up to love and take care of themselves then we need to teach them by showing them how we love and take care of ourselves.
All my love,